How coming out of the fog can feel like

ISOLATION

You don’t feel safe enough to share and feel gaslit by others who believe you should only be grateful for your privilege and neglect your pain, grief, and loss.
 ➨You desire UNDERSTANDING and VALIDATION.

CONFUSION

You read and hear about adoption trauma, the shadow in the adoption industry, and polarised opinions and start questioning your beliefs. So who am I in all of this? What is my truth I haven’t unpacked?

➨ You desire CLARITY in MAKING SENSE of YOUR narrative.

FEAR OF YOUR INNER WORLD

You realize you have uncomfortable feelings living inside of you that you have suppressed. You can’t exactly name or understand them; all you start acknowledging is that they need your attention and are holding you back from forming intimate relationships, setting healthy boundaries, expressing all parts of you, or going for what you truly desire in life.

➨ You desire COURAGE in unpacking them.

ANGER

You feel stripped of your basic human right to know who has given birth to you, your real birth date, and reasons for relinquishment. You feel like a victim of a racist, ignorant, and corrupt system. You start questioning your adoptive parent’s behavior, that they didn’t keep your name, treated you like a trophy, or didn’t nurture your cultural roots.

➨ You desire RELEASE & FORGIVENESS.

SHAME

You question who you are, where you come from, and what cultural origin you carry within. You feel ashamed that you don’t know much about your origin or that you start reflecting on your identity now in adulthood.

➨ You desire CONFIDENCE in your identity and how you show up.

DEPRESSED

Navigating the deeper layers of your identity and your loss often makes you feel sad,  inadequate, tired, or hopeless. You wonder if you can ever accept your story, love yourself and find a place and person that makes you feel like home.  

➨ You desire FULFILLMENT and BELONGING in your life.

Whatever you feel—it’s ok, you are not alone! 

The good news is that we can transform all of our emotions and feelings, and they are an opportunity to learn more about ourselves. They point us in a direction where we need inner work to do. It’s not easy; healing is an ambiguous journey: It can be painful, confusing, and isolating—it can also be connecting, clarifying and liberating!

☀︎ Connect with me below to feel safe and seen in your adoptee experience and LIBERATE your adoptee self and emotions!

♥ Warmly, Sun Mee.