Liberate Your Adoptee Self
Inner belonging is possible for you. So is emotional liberation.
📅 October cohort fully booked ♡
LIBERATE begins again February 20, 2027, the first full moon of the Lunar New Year
8 spots, already filling · Early-bird until December 9, the new moon
Hey dear!
Does any of this sound like you?
Do you keep your adoption story ready in your head, bracing yourself for the questions, assumptions, or comments that might come next?
Do you overperform, people-please, and stay endlessly useful because slowing down brings up the fear that you’re not enough?
Do you carefully read the room, avoid conflict, and adjust yourself to keep the peace and avoid rejection?
Do you carry anger and grief about your adoption but swallow them down because you’re afraid of being seen as bitter, difficult, or ungrateful?
Do you feel everything deeply, yet still struggle to feel truly seen in your adoptee experience, even by people who love you?
You’ve looked at your adoption story.
You can explain it clearly to a therapist, to a friend, to yourself.
Your body just hasn’t gotten the deeper insight yet.
This journey is for you, if:
~ you’ve done the talking, and you’re ready to work with your feeling body
~ you want to feel your grief and your anger without drowning in them
~ you want to say what you need without the apology in front of it
~ you want to be in a space where you don’t have to explain being a BIPOC adoptee
~ you’re willing to be radically safe and soft with yourself–this isn’t about pushing through.
Many of us grew up between countries, languages and families where no one looked like us. We learned to read a room before we walked into it, and we were called too sensitive for the very thing that helped us survive.
Some of us love our adoptive families, some of us carry deep hurt from them or have had to step away, and many of us feel both. Some of us are searching for our birth families, some of us are in reunion, and some of us are sitting in between two families, two stories and two sets of loyalties, wondering where we fit. We grieve, and we feel angry about how it all happened, sometimes in the same afternoon. All of it can be true here, and all of our truths get to stay.
For me, everything changed when I found belonging within myself first. Inner belonging became the foundation that let me find belonging out in the world, in my relationships, my family and my work. And wholeness doesn’t mean being complete or finished. It means being able to hold it all: the grief and the joy, the love and the anger, both families and every part of you.
In my own life and in every session I’ve held, I’ve seen three things make this possible.
Saying yes to yourself. Giving yourself permission to feel, and knowing why you’re here. That yes comes from you, and it’s already a huge first step.
A community that validates you. Being seen without judgment and without anyone trying to fix you, in a space we create together and hold with care.
A guided pathway. Somatic tools and my C.A.R.E. framework, so you move in small, steady steps: Create intentional space, Allow what’s present, Regulate and release, Embody your truth.
Your mind already knows so much. Together we bridge it into your body, so you can feel what you believe, and then live it.
Eight adoptees from Europe and the US, each on a different path, all welcome as they are. No one asks where you’re really from. No one needs your story to be sad enough or resolved enough. You share what you want, when you want, and you can simply listen.
We co-create the agreements together before we begin, I meet everyone 1:1 first, and every session opens and closes with a grounding practice, so you leave carrying only what’s yours.
“When the first group session began, I remember feeling nervous, and very at ease. I felt calm because I trusted that I was heard, seen, and felt.” – Soumi
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8 Weeks to Reclaim Your Wholeness
A step-by-step guided journey to overcome the fear of your feelings and confidently belong on your terms!
In this opening 1:1 session, we’ll clarify your intentions and explore what support will help you feel most safe, seen, and resourced in this journey. Together, we’ll create a strong foundation for how you want to begin.
In this opening session, you’ll meet the other adoptees in the cohort and begin to feel the power of shared experience. Together, we’ll create safety, presence, and connection in the group, while exploring what it means to live in the in-between as an adoptee.
Discover what your body, mind, heart, and spirit have truly been asking for. In this module, you’ll learn to understand your nervous system, notice your triggers, and use somatic and mindful tools to regulate, resource, and care for yourself with more compassion.
Uncover the deeper patterns behind resistance, people-pleasing, and limiting adoptee beliefs. You’ll be guided through a safe process to release stuck energy and create more space for the life, truth, and way of being you want to welcome in.
Learn the difference between emotions, feelings, and sensations—and begin to understand the wisdom within your adoptee emotions. This module will help you relate to your inner world with more clarity, compassion, and trust.
What if grief needed witnessing more than fixing? In this module, you’ll learn to meet your losses with care and compassion, create a personal grief ritual, and experience how grief and joy can move together in the rhythm of life.
Shame begins to loosen when it is brought into the light. In this module, you’ll give space to the insecurities around your adoptee identity, reconnect with your values, and grow more anchored in the truth of who you are.
What makes you feel whole and seen?
Explore the future version of yourself that feels more whole, seen, and true. You’ll clarify what parts of you are ready to shine, and learn how healthy boundaries can support your choice, agency, and self-expression.
As we close the circle, we’ll celebrate your insights and share reflections on what this journey has opened within you. You’ll leave with an integration roadmap to help you make sense of your experience and carry it forward with more clarity, trust, and intention.
In this personal integration session, we’ll reflect on what has shifted for you and map out your next steps with clarity and intention. Together, we’ll create a plan that helps you stay connected to your vision and turn insight into meaningful, aligned action.
Soumi almost didn’t join. A group felt like unknown territory after years of processing everything on her own. Halfway through the journey, she was in a friend’s car, laughing so hard she couldn’t breathe.
“Facing my pain is very, very hard and deeply unpleasant. But it let me feel that same depth in joy. It allowed me not to drown in the pain and isolation. Not to settle for a silent cry, but a loud burst of joy.” – Soumi
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What becomes possible
FROM STUCK TO CLEAR
"Coming out of it, I feel much more clear in who I am and where I’m going in life. I’m prepared to live in alignment with my true values, making choices in my life, relationships, career, and day-to-day that I know are right for me.“
FROM INSECURE TO CONFIDENT
"This group journey has helped me create a safe space within myself. Now, I can harness my inner power and knowing and translate and manifest what I want for myself in this life."
That’s so normal, and it’s often the part of you that kept you safe for a long time. Soumi felt it too: “Even though I felt really called to join, I still felt myself trying to find ways to not join.” The Courage Call is there so you can listen to both parts, with no pressure either way.
Many of us learned that processing alone was the only way. Katie did too, and she was nervous. That’s why I meet everyone 1:1 before we begin, we create our agreements together, and sharing is always a choice.
“It’s always been hard for me to open up and feel vulnerable in front of other people, but Sun Mee created an environment that felt safe and non-judgmental. I could express myself without feeling judged or rejected.” – Katie
“Yes, we’re all adopted, but we’re also very different people on very different journeys. That’s what made it so impactful. It reminded me I don’t have to be one thing or the other. I’m just where I am. And it’s completely okay.” – Soumi
We go slow, in small doses, and we regulate before we go deeper. Your capacity grows week by week, so grief can move through you without pulling you under. I will guide you with my NUMARU C.A.R.E framework that teaches you how to move through grief, anger, shame–and also come out of it.
“The somatic practices and learning to move through my emotions without staying stuck were the missing pieces in all the healing work I had done already. I have so much more clarity about who I am and where I’m going in life.” – Roslin
It’s about 2.5 hours a week, built to fit a full life, and busy full-time working moms have joined. “Saying yes is not a disruption to your day-to-day life. If you allow it to be and you’re ready, it can be a portal to really open your heart.” – Soumi
You don’t need fixing, because you’re already whole. Wholeness doesn’t mean being fully healed. The pain doesn’t fully go away, and we learn to meet ourselves where we are and hold ourselves in the wound, with acceptance and trust. Then when grief shows up, we have more capacity to hold it, and it feels lighter.
At first, the emotions we pushed away rise to the surface, so it can hurt a little more before it eases. That’s where pain begins to transform into liberation.
“Coming out of it I feel much more positive and hopeful. I have learned tools and been able to allow myself to prioritise my self care, and find compassion and love for myself.” – Young Sun
✔︎ Safe and understood in your transracial adoptee experience
✔︎ Supported and empowered to belong within
✔︎ At peace with your feelings and inner world
✔︎ Deeply connected with yourself and others
✔︎ Confident and joyful in your adoptee life
✔︎ Fully self-expressed and WHOLE.
As a Korean-German adoptee, adopted at 3.5 years old from Pusan and raised in Germany, I know what it feels like to grow up with a deep sense of disconnection — from your body, your emotions, your roots, and sometimes even from yourself. I know what it’s like to live between identities and to wonder where you truly belong.
For much of my life, I learned to stay safe by adapting. I suppressed my emotions, feared rejection, and became highly attuned to what others needed from me. I shaped myself around expectations, stayed in my head, and tried to be “good” — all while carrying the unspoken grief of separation and the pain of being too much and not enough at the same time.
For years, I tried to heal through understanding alone. I read, reflected, journaled, and did deep inner work. Therapy helped me make sense of my experiences, but I still felt stuck in survival patterns that lived beyond words. The real shift came when I began to include my body in the healing process — through somatic work, mindfulness, creative expression, spiritual practice, and connection with other adoptees.
That journey changed everything. I found more peace, more clarity, and a deeper capacity to belong within myself and with others. I also found the courage to build a life, motherhood, and purpose-led business on my own terms. I stopped living only from adapting and started living from my truth.
This is why I created this work. Because I know how powerful it is when adoptees are given a space to heal that goes beyond talking — a space where the body, grief, identity, and community are all welcome. And in a moment, I’ll show you what that path can look like for you, too.
The February circle begins on the first full moon of the Lunar New Year.
LIBERATE is for adoptees who have done the talking and are ready to feel what they already understand. I keep the circle small, spots are already being reserved, and I speak with everyone before they join, so the group is right for each person in it.
Begin with a Courage Call. We’ll look at where you are, what emotional liberation means to you and whether February is your time. The early-bird rate is open now until the new moon on December 9.
“The missing pieces in all the healing work I had done already.” – Roslin
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For highly sensitive BIPOC and transracial adoptees ♡
You feel a lot, and you feel it deeply. You notice a change in someone’s voice before they say a word. Maybe you learned early that your feelings were too much, so you got very good at reading others and holding yourself in. You might understand all of this already from therapy or inner work, and still catch yourself people-pleasing, overthinking or shutting down.
Here your sensitivity gets room. LIBERATE is somatic, so we work with your body and nervous system, at your pace. You don’t need any somatic experience, just curiosity and a readiness to feel.
It may not be the right fit right now if you’re looking for quick fixes or don’t have the capacity for eight weekly sessions.
“The somatic practices and learning to move through my emotions without staying stuck were the missing pieces in all the healing work I had done already.” – Roslin
That makes sense if you’ve spent years protecting yourself. You don’t need to be comfortable in groups already. Fear and hesitation are welcome here too.
Creating safety is my number one goal. We co-create it from the very first session, and the container moves at your pace. Sharing is always an option, never a requirement. You’ll never be asked to go further than you’re ready for.
“It’s always been hard for me to open up and feel vulnerable in front of other people, but Sun Mee created an environment that felt safe and non-judgmental.” – Katie
That fear makes so much sense. Your nervous system has kept grief, anger and shame at a distance for good reasons. We respect that protection instead of pushing past it.
We ground and regulate first, then work in slow, small steps. Your capacity to feel grows over time, so you can feel without drowning. And you’re held while you feel, instead of holding it all alone.
“Facing my pain is very, very hard and deeply unpleasant. But it let me feel that same depth in joy. It allowed me not to drown in the pain and isolation.” – Soumi
Fellow BIPOC, transracial and transcultural adoptees from Europe and the US. The group is capped at eight.
Many adoptees worry their story is too different, “not bad enough,” or that they’ll feel unseen again. Every story belongs here as it is. I talk with everyone before they join, so the right people come together. I look for openness, capacity, and our community values: trust, honesty, empathy and commitment. Many past participants became friends and are still in touch.
The next cohort starts February 20, 2027. Each week there’s one live Zoom session of about 90 minutes, a course module of about 20 minutes, and a few integration prompts. That’s roughly 2.5 hours a week.
Live is where the group connection happens, so please plan to be there. If you miss a session, it gets recorded for you. If live doesn’t work for you at all, there’s also a self-study option. Busy moms working full time have joined and made it work. If you’re unsure about your capacity, we can look at it together on a Courage Call.
This is a small, premium group experience with deep, trauma-sensitive support. Payment plans start at €148/month.
I also keep one sponsored spot for an adoptee who is currently unemployed and out of funds. Email me at sunmee@numaru.space with a few lines about where you are, or book a Courage Call to explore your options.
“Investing in yourself has never felt so Liberating.” – Caia
“It’s always been hard for me to open up and feel vulnerable in front of other people, but Sun Mee created an environment that felt safe and non-judgmental. I could express myself without feeling judged or rejected.
The structure and step-by-step progress of this program have given me a range of tools and a framework I can now integrate into my daily life. It helps me process many of my emotions and struggles related to adoption.
I felt so safe in our group and our meaningful discussions were so empowering, knowing that I’m not alone.”
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What Jodi wants to tell fellow adoptees who are hesitant to take this step!
ROSLIN, adopted from Mexico
“Sun Mee’s course is life-changing. The somatic practices and learning to move through my emotions without staying stuck were the missing pieces in all the healing work I had done already. I feel like a new person; I have so much more clarity about who I am and where I’m going in life.”
ANNI, adopted from Korea
"I would definetly recommend working with Sun Mee.
I have tried out a lot of healing tools and techniques, but I haven't come someone liek Sun Mee with such level of authenticity and care that she brings into this work."
⁀➷ Life changing results after working together
♥︎ Sarah left people pleasing behind and landed a new, exciting job aligned with her personal AND work values.
♥︎ Kim finally stepped out of a co-dependent relationship. Today, she knows how to set healthy boundaries, and that she deserves someone who truly cares and loves her.
♥︎ Jodi feels a deep sense of rootedness within herself AND with the people and new country she moved to. She forms new healthy friendships, confidently expresses her needs, and even teaches the tools she learned to her 7-year-old son 😉
♥︎ Ana uncovered a lot of compassion for herself and reconnected with her adoptive parents. Together, we prepared her to have vulnerable conversations with them from a place of compassion instead of blame.
♥︎ Roslin isn’t afraid of her feelings any more. She unlocked a deep sense of inner trust and expresses her truth in her performance art.
♥︎ Juhi overcame the fear of going back to her birth country and felt calm and curious to travel there.
♥︎ Lian moved through adoptee grief with care and a clear roadmap instead of overwhelm.
These are just a few heartwarming results…
⁀➷ Imagine what’s possible for you too!
About Sun Mee
Sun Mee is a Korean-German adoptee, certified trauma-sensitive Coach, and Founder of NUMARU— An international community and emotional support platform for transracial/BIPOC adoptees. She was adopted at 3.5 yrs and raised in South Germany. NUMARU results from her journey of transforming her adoptee’s pain into purpose with a mission to create safe spaces and to offer a trauma-sensitive and open-hearted pathway to healing. She works internationally with individuals, groups, NGOs, and cultural organizations and has helped hundreds of adoptees to process their emotions, reclaim their sense of self, and confidently belong. Her story has been featured in international media outlets in the US, UK, Australia, and Germany. She is based in Berlin with her husband and values an eco-conscious and mindful lifestyle, nature, creativity, intuitive cooking, gardening, and DIY crafts.
▶︎ YOUR NEXT STEP:
Book a call with me and see if this is the right next step in your healing journey. I’ll answer any questions you have.
Warmly, Sun Mee
▶︎ DO YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS?
You can keep carrying it quietly, the way so many of us learned to. Or you can let yourself be held while you feel, and find out what becomes possible when your body finally catches up with what your mind already knows.
If you feel the pull, trust it. ♡
“I’m able to speak life into myself in a way that I never have before. Ever.” – Soumi
